Sadness... somehow somewhere someone would have always experienced this feeling. Parting ways with your loved ones, experiencing your nature's fury. Or for less fortunate ones .. watching your own wedding video for Nth time where N > 253. Add to this sadness, Misery and helplessness and you get TRAUMA. To give you an example: You might be sitting alone in a small dark room may make you feel sad. The point that in the next room is President Elect Donald trump waiting eagerly to meet this person might make him feel miserable and helpless. TRAUMA!!!
For me the sky breaks, hairs fall down, water flows from all pores when I hear the word SHOPPING!!!
Fellow TOastMasters, Most welcome Guests. For people who know me and my family, this is an innocent and first attempt at humour by me. For every one else, this is a true story.
Picture this.
For me the sky breaks, hairs fall down, water flows from all pores when I hear the word SHOPPING!!!
Fellow TOastMasters, Most welcome Guests. For people who know me and my family, this is an innocent and first attempt at humour by me. For every one else, this is a true story.
Picture this.
A Sunny blue sky with clouds scattered frequently, birds chanting the morning rhymes, trees throwing their leaves and branches in all directions, wind was gaining strength as if it has just pumped a lot of iron, the last of the after partiers had safely reached their beds. The city was still silent and the smell of coffee was getting more and more frequent. In short it was 11 Oçlock on sunday morning in Amsterdam. And I was about to embark on an ordeal which lasted 8 hours in total with two meal breaks of 30 minutes. I had to brave many many people who wanted to sell jeans, shirts, shoes, trousers, skirts, cosmetics, accessories and there after more jeans , more clothes, more cosmetics, more shoes. I survived the battle which was going on way after it got dark. But it got me introspect why I hated Shopping. For as long as I remembered, I always hated shopping. Irrespective of the nature of activity. I always felt miserable and sad. I have identified three reasons which I am sure made me feel traumatized when it comes to shopping.
1. Imagine there is a new wine shop in your neighbourhood. You go and buy a fairly expensive bottle of wine. The salesman tells you this is an offer and you are really lucky. You come home happy. In the evening you try to show off a bit your bargain to a friend of yours. Doesnt each of us have atleast one friend who always know how to buy something cheaper than you?? Did you checked online? You could have bought it cheaper from Gall n Gall. Now I am sad and to get rid of my sadness, I drink wine. But as soon as I take a sip, it reminds me of my bad purchase. This is called COGNITIVE DISONANCE in psychology.: The two mutually conflicting thoughts in your head and you are not sure which one you should accept.
2. PAIN POINTS: I hate spending money over and over. No I am not Dutch. I dont mind paying money at once but the act of paying over and over does not help me. Interestingly enough, there is a study which was done in this aspect. People enjoy or hate doing certain things .. for example in this case spending money. Now the act of spending 100 USD 10 times will give me more pain than spending 1000 USD. The pain or pleasure associated with actions does not follow the arithmetic progressional path. To give you an example, imagine during next few renewal, you pay Lee the fees in 5 euro bills.
1. Imagine there is a new wine shop in your neighbourhood. You go and buy a fairly expensive bottle of wine. The salesman tells you this is an offer and you are really lucky. You come home happy. In the evening you try to show off a bit your bargain to a friend of yours. Doesnt each of us have atleast one friend who always know how to buy something cheaper than you?? Did you checked online? You could have bought it cheaper from Gall n Gall. Now I am sad and to get rid of my sadness, I drink wine. But as soon as I take a sip, it reminds me of my bad purchase. This is called COGNITIVE DISONANCE in psychology.: The two mutually conflicting thoughts in your head and you are not sure which one you should accept.
2. PAIN POINTS: I hate spending money over and over. No I am not Dutch. I dont mind paying money at once but the act of paying over and over does not help me. Interestingly enough, there is a study which was done in this aspect. People enjoy or hate doing certain things .. for example in this case spending money. Now the act of spending 100 USD 10 times will give me more pain than spending 1000 USD. The pain or pleasure associated with actions does not follow the arithmetic progressional path. To give you an example, imagine during next few renewal, you pay Lee the fees in 5 euro bills.
3. Impulsive shopping: Most of men like to plan things. They strategise, optimise, refine before they execute. This period could be anything from 1 week to 6 weeks. For me the shopping was planning took 6 weeks. Everything was meticulously organised. Where we will start from, what we buy from, what we will avoid and where we will eat. Now after entering the market, you are exposed to so many new shops, new offers and new trends. The whole plan goes down the drain. Now two things can happen. Either paralysis due to analysis of excess data. Or You grab that as an opportunity and start buying. But in both the cases, you will feel sad. Either becasue you purchased too much or not at all. For example. A puppy who enters a warehouse of dog food. He will overeat or get confused and do not eat at all.
Fellow TMs, honoured guests, This is why I feel I get traumatized. My TM friends, this was my first attempt at humour. My Guests, Do not come under pressure of "Let us go shopping"
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